One month ago, I smoked my last cigarette
I have been a smoker on and off for the last 27 years. I am not sure why I started smoking. Be it Rebelliousness, thinking it was “cool”, or some other reason. I just remember that I started when I was about 12 years old. I used to go out to the back yard and sit in the far corner and try to smoke. Eventually, I got hooked.
In that time, I have never WANTED to quit. I have had times that I needed to quit. (incarceration, hospital time, etc) I had one time that I “tried” to quit for a living arrangement I was in. (that didn’t work out because my room mates hated my mood swings so bad they actually bought me a pack of smokes and asked me to start again)
This is the first time I have made a conscious decision to quit. On the evening of Nov 1, 2009 I was walking up to the local convenience store from my home. I lit up a cigarette and said to myself, “This tastes like shit” and put it out. That was my last cigarette. I decided that I just didn’t want to smoke anymore. That was that.
It’s been a month. No patch, no pills, no nicotine gum. Surprisingly, no major mood swings.
I get a lot of people going CONGRATS! etc etc. For me, that’s not the point. I did not do it for my health or for any “guilt” reasons. I just decided that I didn’t like doing it anymore. If I decide that I miss it enough, I may just start again. But, they do taste bad and I hate the aftereffects. So, for now, I am a non-smoker.
Driver’s License – I Actually Got One
Believe it or not, it’s been almost 15 years since I have had a driver’s license. I did a lot of traveling and had been using my passport for identification. Most places I’ve been, I never really needed to drive. Angel also loves to drive, she had been driving me pretty much anytime I needed to go anywhere.
The other reason is purely superstitious. Any time I have had a driver’s license in the past, shortly thereafter, I’d get in some sort of legal trouble. So, I had been afraid to get one LOL.
Why after all these years did I decide to get one? Well, simple really, Draylan (my son). There have been times that I’ve needed to drive and usually during those times, Draylan is with me. I never want there to be a situation where I am doing something illegitimate and Draylan would have to suffer or be confused about what is happening.
I think it’s time as well. It’s been very interesting to me that I’ve gone this long without one. LOL
I went to the DMV today and was amazed at how easy it was to “renew” my license. I only had to take an 18 question test and that was it. If you get more than 3 wrong answers, you fail the test. I took the test and was worried about 3 questions that I was unsure about. Ironically, I got all of those 3 right. I got ONE that I thought was right, wrong. LOL
So, I am legal again. Watch out for me on the roads, I’ll smash you with Angel’s suburban. 
In Being an Alternative Family and dealing with Religion
My immediate family is very alternative in regards as to how most families function. First and foremost in my family, the priority resides with my son. All our decisions and choices ALWAYS take him into consideration first.
When Angel was pregnant with Draylan, we spent several hours a week discussing how we would deal with various situations that might arise with our son. A lot of it was discussion on how we would deal with various potential situations as they arise. Since we could not predict for EVERY possible situation, we spent a lot of time laying out guidelines on how we would deal with situations as they arise.
We know that our views and lifestyle are not the norm. But do know, that we do love and cherish our son dearly. I KNOW that we are very good parents. My argument to most people is simple. Do not question US as to our viability as parents. Take a moment and talk to my son, his words, actions, mannerisms, and personality will speak volumes as to how we are as parents. Read more
Drupal – Finally I see the light!
For some time now, I’ve been looking for a web framework that I can work with. I’ve been a huge proponent of Wordpress, vBulletin, DZOIC, and phpFox. Those allow for very specialized types of sites. Lately, I have been looking for something that is very configurable without me having to re-invent the wheel or code it from scratch.
I’d been looking at Joomla for some time but it just seemed too constricting for MY tastes. I had looked at Drupal in the past and was not impressed. Recently, about a week ago, I decided to take a look at it again. My it has come a ways. Read more
2 years ago, I was a drinking fool
This week 2 years ago (in 2007) I stopped drinking.
I woke up one morning and decided it was time to stop. I have not had a drink of alcohol since. Prior to that, I was a drinking fool! I was drinking like mad. I had gotten to the point in my drinking where I didn’t remember what happened for DAYS in my life.
I can definitely say I have an addictive personality. I’ve been addicted to every drug you can think of. (I’ve not used any narcotic drugs in almost 20 years) Drinking was my last real negative addiction. It slowly spiraled out of hand till one day in August 2007 I said to myself “Enough is enough”. I stopped.
The amazing part is that I don’t really miss it. Plus, I don’t have any issues being around others that are drinking or being around alcohol in general. I still like to go out and have a good time with friends, I drink juice or water and am still able to have a good time. I believe that I am able to do this because I have replaced my addiction to alcohol with a new addiction, Read more
TheJoe gets a Unibody 17″ MacBook Pro… Twice
Let me start by saying, “I did not NEED to upgrade my laptop”. I did so because I promised Andrew that when certain things happened, that he would get my late 2008 17″ MacBook Pro. Those things occurred and I made good on my promise. So, I had to get a new computer. This is where the adventure begins.
After some hiccups at the Santa Monica Apple store (idiot clerk and manager), I have a unibody MacBook Pro 17″ with the Anti-Glare (matte) option in hand and take it home. It sits on the shelf for a couple of days while I get the stuff that I normally add to my MacBooks when I buy them. Palmguard, keyboard protector, etc. (this took an act of congress because everyone was out of stock and I had to order it all) Read more
I fly Because… Ozone
For some time now, I’ve been dabbling in power kiting and stunt kite flying. I have not had time lately to indulge in this passion because “life” got in the way. Recently I found this video that has “rekindled” my interest in this great hobby. I want to share this video with you…
Man, isn’t that a kick ass video?
One of the reasons I got into kiting was because of various physical abuse that I have incurred over the years, I found that kiting was actually a sport that I CAN do and enjoy doing. I started with simple 2 string stunt kites and have graduated to the “power” kites. (power kites are what’s used in kitesurfing and what you see in this video)
I am working towards getting better at kitesurfing and look forward to parakiting some day.
Shameless plug: OZONE Kites ROCK!
GFE should never be an upsell
Another thing I noticed recently on some of the provider boards I am on, is that for some providers, GFE is offered as an additional service. Meaning, that they have multiple offerings and their base offering is a non-GFE one and then their “menu” has additional “items” that will either constitute the technical aspects of GFE leading up to what they claim will be a Full GFE. This is not GFE in my opinion.
One of the key words in the acronym GFE (Girl Friend Experience) is EXPERIENCE. Providing a GFE service, should constitute the full EXPERIENCE, it should be a part of what you do regardless of the client. Again, depending on the client, chemistry/compatibility levels are different, but this should not change your offering.
Yes, I understand that the client/provider relationship is a business one. However, I feel that the less evident the “business” is, the better.
The bottom line in this posting is that one should ask. Are you providing/seeking just sex? or are you providing/seeking an overall experience? The latter is what the main part of GFE is all about.
What sign are you?
I got this in an e-mail and thought I would share…
Do you believe in astrology? Do you read what the stars say about you, checking the papers everyday? Here’s another take.
What is your sign?
Proper provider experience Part 2
In a previous post “What a proper experience with a provider should be“, I put up some high points on what a “Girl Friend Experience” should be. In that post, my focus was on the technique. Since that post, I have had several conversations with my wife, and other providers, and have realized that I missed a key element, the “experience” itself.
The one key element I have missed is the “girl friend” or companion part. What separates Kristen from other providers, aside from hitting the “functional” points brought up in my previous post, is that she is able to make me FEEL like she is my girlfriend or companion the ENTIRE time I am with her. This is the main reason why I felt compelled to write about my experience with her.
This is THE rare quality that I believe certain providers posses and most cannot achieve.
What gave me this light bulb is simple. Angel said to me this morning… “[When with a client] the SEX is easy.”
To clarify, it’s easy to fulfill the points in the list I made in my other post. I think anyone could do that. But what makes the session is the time spent not having sex. How that time is filled up, if it’s awkward or uncomfortable, then it’s not good. Both Kristen and Angel’s talents are the ability to make you FEEL like they genuinely care about you and being there with you. This my friends, is what GFE truly is.
